His first 3 marriages had lasted less than 2 years with one lasting months. His current marriage has now lasted over 15 years. Coupled with the idea that the Church dispenses annulments liberally (I consider it liberally), I began to think that marriage is a hard-to-reach ideal. Not every couple who has had a wedding is married, likewise, not every couple who hasn't had one by the church isn't. Marriage predates the church, and can be seen across cultures.